You know your marriage is over. You have tried everything to make it work, but for one reason or another you end up in the same place time and time again.
This will lead to a situation in which you have to discuss divorce with your spouse. If the other party is thinking the same way as you, it's much easier to have this conversation.
However, if this person doesn't know you want a divorce, it can be more challenging to put everything on the table.
Asking for a divorce is never simple, but there are some steps you can take to ease the tension and put this in the past once and for all:
- Prepare yourself for the conversation. For instance, you want to know what the other person may say when you ask for a divorce. This will ensure that you know how to respond without making things worse.
- Choose the right time and place to talk. This is more important than many people believe, as choosing the wrong time or place could make your situation worse. An example of this would be telling your spouse you want a divorce over Thanksgiving dinner with your children at the table.
- Be firm in your request for a divorce. There is a good chance your spouse will attempt to talk you out of your decision. While there is nothing wrong with hearing the person out, once you make up your mind you need to stick to your guns.
- Avoid the finer details for the time being. The last thing you want to do is dive into the details of the divorce process, such as who will get the house and how child custody will work.
Asking for divorce is the first step in putting your marriage in the past. This will be upsetting on many different levels, but if you know it's the right decision you need to take action.
Once you have this out of the way, you can then learn more about the divorce process and the best way to protect your legal rights along the way.