It is naïve to think that children will not be emotionally affected by their parents’ divorce. With all the upheaval they experience, children should be reassured that their parents will still be in their lives, that they are loved and still part of the family.
But parents can also use some encouragement during such an emotionally difficult time. A HuffingtonPost.com article highlighted a number of things that kids want their parents to know, even though they may not be able to express themselves. We will highlight a few of them here.
You’re still a good parent – Being married doesn’t always mean that you’re a good parent, and being divorced does not mean that you are a bad parent. Basically, your marriage does not define your worth as a parent, and your child still loves you even though he or she may be angry right now.
Find a way to be nice to each other – Even though you’re no longer married, you can’t just disappear because you don’t live in the family home. Kids need both parents, so you need to find a way to get along, even if means just being cordial for short stints.
Don’t worry too much– Try not to waste too much energy, or drink too much wine, worrying about what is going to happen to your kids. While it might be easy to say that they’ll be fine, they will. Children are resilient, and you may be surprised with how they adjust to their new reality. Besides, every family has a certain level of dysfunction. That’s what family is about.
The preceding is for informational purposes only and is not legal advice.